Lost in a Wonderland.

Let me start by saying that I only have a few close girlfriends that I feel like I can talk to. So when I feel like I have made another close friend it makes me so happy. I feel like as a female we have such a power to connect with other women and support them. Instead it seems like most women look at each other with just sheer jealousy and its sad. Men don’t truly understand the things that we go through so it is necessary to have women who you can trust and who can support you to make it through the rough spots in life. I have known a girl named Abby Murphy for over a year in a half and we have always been friendly but we have never really connected until today. Sharing stories and advice for one another was so great. We all struggle and its nice to know that we have people to get us through those struggles. So here’s to a new and bright friendship! Thanks Abby! Love ya! Oh and by the way check out her blog, All Things Abby!

Today my mother told me of a trial going on in Ohio. She was terribly upset over it so I listened to the story; three or four boys did unspeakable things to a young girl at a party when she was blacked out drunk. These boys apparently sent out massive amounts of picture texts to everyone from this small town. In all those kids only one was brave enough to say that what they were doing was wrong and terrible. But it did not stop there, after these boys had finished doing these unspeakable things to her, they thought that she was dead so instead of panicking they started to pee on her. The girl lived and the next day at school was shocked when everyone was talking about her. She confronted the boys and they denied even though there is mountains of evidence with all the pictures; they are still pleading innocent in court. My mother was just astonished at the events of this but I myself was not shocked. I had said that I had known of girls that these sort of things had happened to them but with little evidence and they just went on living their lives. After I had said this I wondered why and when our nation had become so comfortable discussing events like this or raising the children that have been attacking others in this manner. I really would like to talk with the parents of kids like these boys and ask them whats going through their  heads. How they have come to be parents to such monsters. When did it become okay to treat girls like an inadament object. That may sound feminist but this is way beyond that. This is cruel and terrible abuse and violation that these poor young girls will have to live with for the rest of their lives. We have all made mistakes male and female alike; but no matter how someone acts it is never okay to treat women like that. 

Ladies that leads me to talk about why we are letting ourselves become this object instead of the smart, intelligent women we are. Women are going through this life and living how everyone else is living and then getting married and having daughters that will later also be objectified as they were. We need to stop acting like we are just sex objects, we need to stop dressing like we want to get attacked. We need to stop getting hammered and drinking with “friends” who really don’t care about our well being. We need to stop acting like being violated is just something that happens because it doesn’t. WE RECEIVE THE LOVE WE THINK WE DESERVE. So lets start loving ourselves and each other and most importantly watch out for each other. Because the hatred and violence needs to end, we need to make it end.